you can improve the power of you brain,no matte

you can improve the power of you brain,no matte
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they say that the only limit on the power of the brain is the limit of what we think is possible .this is probably because of the way we are taught as children .when we first start learning to use our minds we are told what to do,for example,to remember certain facts ,but we are not taught how our memory works and how to make that best use of it .we are told to make noted hut we are not taught how our brains accept information and which is the best way to organize the information we want our brains to accept .
I remember my dad teaching me the power of language at a very young age.Not only did my dad understand that specific words affect our mental pictures,but he understood words are a powerful programming factor in lifelong success.
One particularly interesting event occurred when I was eight.As a kid,I was always climbing trees,poles,and literally hanging around upside down from the rafters of our lake house.So,it came to no surprise for my dad to find me at the top of a 30-foot tree swinging back and forth.My little eight-year-old brain didn鈥檛 realize the tree could break or I could get hurt.I just thought it was fun to be up so high.
My older cousin,Tammy,was also in the same tree.She was hanging on the first big limb,about ten feet below me.Tammy鈥檚 mother also noticed us at the exact time my dad did.About that time a huge gust of wind came over the tree.I could hear the leaves start to rattle and the tree begin to sway.I remember my dad鈥檚 voice over the wind yell,鈥淏art,Hold on tightly.鈥 So I did.The next thing I know,I heard Tammy screaming at the top of her lungs,laying flat on the ground.She had fallen out of the tree.
I scampered down the tree to safety.My dad later told me why she fell and I did not.Apparently,when Tammy鈥檚 mother felt the gust of wind,she yelled out,鈥淭ammy,don鈥檛 fall!鈥 And Tammy did鈥 fall.
My dad then explained to me that the mind has a very difficult time processing a negative image.In fact,people who rely on internal pictures cannot see a negative at all.In order for Tammy to process the command of not falling,her nine-year-old brain had to first imagine falling,then try to tell the brain not to do what it just imagined.Whereas,my eight-year-old brain instantly had an internal image of me hanging on tightly.
This concept is especially useful when you are attempting to break a habit or set a goal.You can鈥檛 visualize not doing something.The only way to properly visualize not doing something is to actually find a word for what you want to do and visualize that.For example,when I was thirteen years old,I played for my junior high school football team.I tried so hard to be good,but I just couldn鈥檛 get it together at that age.I remember hearing the words run through my head as I was running out for a pass,鈥淒on鈥檛 drop it!鈥 Naturally,I dropped the ball.
My coaches were not skilled enough to teach us proper 鈥渟elf-talk.鈥 They just thought some kids could catch and others couldn鈥檛.I鈥檒l never make it pro,but I鈥檓 now a pretty good Sunday afternoon football player,because all my internal dialogue is positive and encourages me to win.I wish my dad had coached me playing football instead of just climbing trees.I might have had a longer football career.
Here is a very easy demonstration to teach your kids and your friends the power of a toxic vocabulary.Ask them to hold a pen or pencil.Hand it to them.Now,follow my instructions carefully.Say to them,鈥淥kay,try to drop the pencil.鈥 Observe what they do.
Most people release their hands and watch the pencil hit the floor.You respond,鈥淵ou weren鈥檛 paying attention.I said TRY to drop the pencil.Now please do it again.鈥 Most people then pick up the pencil and pretend to be in excruciating pain while their hand tries but fails to drop the pencil.
The point is made.
If you tell your brain you will 鈥済ive it a try,鈥 you are actually telling your brain to fail.I have a 鈥渘o try鈥 rule in my house and with everyone I interact with.Either people will do it or they won鈥檛.Either they will be at the party or they won鈥檛.I鈥檓 brutal when people attempt to lie to me by using the word try.Do they think I don鈥檛 know they are really telegraphing to the world they have no intention of doing it but they want me to give them brownie points for pretended effort?You will never hear the words 鈥淚鈥檒l try鈥 come out of my mouth unless I鈥檓 teaching this concept in a seminar.
If you 鈥渢ry鈥 and do something,your unconscious mind has permission not to succeed.If I truly can鈥檛 make a decision I will tell the truth.鈥淪orry John.I鈥檓 not sure if I will be at your party or not.I鈥檝e got an outstanding commitment.If that falls through,I will be here.Otherwise,I will not.Thanks for the invite.鈥滭br/>People respect honesty.So remove the word 鈥渢ry鈥 from your vocabulary.
My dad also told me that psychologists claim it takes seventeen positive statements to offset one negative statement.I have no idea if it is true,but the logic holds true.It might take up to seventeen compliments to offset the emotional damage of one harsh criticism.
These are concepts that are especially useful when raising children.
Ask yourself how many compliments you give yourself daily versus how many criticisms.Heck,I know you are talking to yourself all day long.We all have internal voices that give us direction.
So,are you giving yourself the 17:1 ratio or are you shortchanging yourself with toxic self-talk like,鈥 I鈥檓 fat.Nobody will like me.I鈥檒l try this diet.I鈥檓 not good enough.I鈥檓 so stupid.I鈥檓 broke,etc.etc.鈥滭br/>If our parents can set a lifetime of programming with one wrong statement,imagine the kind of programming you are doing on a daily basis with your own internal dialogue.Here is a list of Toxic Vocabulary words.
Notice when you or other people use them.
But:Negates any words that are stated before it.
Try:Presupposes failure.
If:Presupposes that you may not.
Might:It does nothing definite.It leaves options for your listener.
Would Have:Past tense that draws attention to things that didn鈥檛 actually happen.
Should Have:Past tense that draws attention to things that didn鈥檛 actually happen (and implies guilt.)
Could Have:Past tense that draws attention to things that didn鈥檛 actually happen but the person tries to take credit as if it did happen.
Can鈥檛/Don鈥檛:These words force the listener to focus on exactly the opposite of what you want.This is a classic mistake that parents and coaches make without knowing the damage of this linguistic error.
Examples:
Toxic phrase:鈥淒on鈥檛 drop the ball!鈥滭br/>Likely result:Drops the ball
Better language:鈥淐atch the ball!鈥滭br/>Toxic phrase:鈥淵ou shouldn鈥檛 watch so much television.鈥滭br/>Likely result:Watches more television.
Better language:鈥淚 read too much television makes people stupid.You might find yourself turning that TV off and picking up one of those books more often!鈥滭br/>Exercise:Take a moment to write down all the phrases you use on a daily basis or any Toxic self-talk that you have noticed yourself using.Write these phrases down so you will begin to catch yourself as they occur and change them.